The East Wing Perspective on Training vs. Romance
As my peers have noted in their articles, this subject, while completely clear to us as we discuss it within our group is somewhat more difficult to express to the community at large. I myself sat on this subject for more than a month (actually, much more) before [...]
Training vs. Romance: The View From The North Wing
I outlined this piece no fewer than four times. I was trying to eliminate the tone of inherent judgment. I’ve realized that is not going to be possible. "Vs." implies contest, and by virtue of selecting one method over the other I have made an endorsement. At [...]
The West Wing Perspective on Training vs. Romance
Essential Estate Structure: Merit
First, let’s clarify our terms for the purposes of this discussion.
S/M: Sado-Masochism. The inflicting and/or receiving of physical and/or emotional pain for the Fulfillment of (presumably both) partners.
B/D: Bondage and Discipline. Usually sexualized play. Often, but not by definition, an expression of D/S.
D/S: Dominance and [...]
The East Wing Perspective on Protocols in The Estate: What and Why
When we formed The Estate, it was with the specific goal of codifying what we like into a structured, well thought-out and consistent set of rules and guidelines that could be used all the time. Our feeling is, it should never be necessary to [...]
The West Wing Perspective on Protocols:
Intent and Practice
To clarify my terms:
There may be some confusion as to what a Protocol is- I would
first like to point out what a protocol is not. Protocol is not
ritual, although it may contain ritual elements.
Ritual is a behavior, repeated by situation or on demand. The
purpose of ritual [...]